I don’t like to talk about myself. I don’t think I’m that interesting and I don’t really think fans want to know that much about me. A lot of times I’ll get mail addressed to me and in it will be a letter for Davy with a short note to me asking if I’ll please get this letter to Davy as they know he gets so much mail he’ll probably never see it.
This doesn’t hurt my feelings or anything like that. I kind of like it that I’m not the most popular Monkee. I’ve got my family and my extra work and if I did have to answer a lot of fan mail I just wouldn’t have the time.
Also, these girl interviewers who badger us with questions all the time can really get you down. I’ve told Ann Moses a thousand times that when she can think of some interesting questions to ask me, I’ll answer them willingly. But she’d better not chase me around the set trying to get me to list my hates and loves. This turns me off very quickly.
I do believe that my fans want to hear my opinions on certain things and these things I’ll talk about but I’m not going to bore myself and my fans talking about my favorite foods and things like this. Fans want to know about putting together Monkee songs and working on the show. Also hobbies like buying boats and taking trips. These things are interesting and fun to talk about, but me, I’m just not that fascinating.
Then there’s my family. I can’t tell anything very interesting about them either. We have a wonderful life together and I love them very much and outside of that I’m not going to reveal Phyllis’ hates and loves either. If she wants to then that’s her business. But personally I think she has better things to do.
I don’t want to sound ungrateful to magazines and newspapers who do print stories about us, but I just want you to know that when I talk about something that gets printed I want it to be something worth your while to read and understand. Not a bunch of dull copy. So I hope you’ll understand now why more stories probably aren’t printed about me.
I’ve been putting off writing this for many months but I guess I’ll just have to break down and state my case. What is my ideal girl like? Well, I’ll tell you.
She’s very much like you IF she’s completely herself in every way. By this I mean she can have long hair, short hair, be thin, fat, or tall. But she’s got to know who she is in every way, or at least be searching to find out. She must want something out of life and be willing to work hard to get it. She has to depend on herself and more than anything else, she must like herself.
Right now there are many girls in my life who fit this description. They are warm, natural, understanding people who think about themselves as people, not just as girls. Too often I’ve seen girls fall back on their femininity as the basis for their lives. This doesn’t work. You’ve got to be a real person before you can be truly feminine, especially in the eyes of someone else.
A girl’s looks are important. I’m not pretending they aren’t. But I’ve known many girls who are far from beautiful who make you think they are by what they say and what they do. There’s a way about them, a way they think about themselves that really catches your imagination. Suddenly you’re looking beneath their outer appearance and seeing true beauty because inside they stand for something.
Ok, so you say to me that this is easier said than done. I know that’s true because in school it seems that you’re expected to be like everyone else if you want to make the ‘in’ scene. Well, remember this, when you get out of school there really is no ‘in crowd’ or ‘in scene’. It’s only you and your life. This is all that matters and if you’ve copied everyone else all through school instead of just being yourself, then you’ll have to change all those habits around and become really you.
You’ll be pretty surprised, I think, if you start doing this today. At first, there may be a few catty remarks thrown your way, and a few surprised glances and some “Get her? Who does she think she is?” But once they find out you know who you are, there’ll be some pretty exciting times in store for you!
Magazine: Tiger Beat
Author: The Monkees
Editor: Ann Moses
Publisher: Laufer Publishing Company