A new TiGER BEAT monthly column from us to you… by Davy, Peter, Mike, & Micky
Each month in TiGER BEAT the Monkees tell all about themselves and their lives… in their own words!
This month I’m going to talk about by favorite subject: GIRLS. I hope none of you think I’m girl crazy, because I’m not. But I do like lots of different types of girls.
A couple of months ago a column in TiGER BEAT quoted me as saying, “I’m just a clown who nobody loves.” Well, I did say that. But only in a joking way. I like to think of myself as being kind of funny, but really I don’t think girls object to someone who likes to crack jokes or have fun. Every girl I go out with seems to enjoy a good joke.
One reason why I think I like girls is the fact that I’ve always been around such groovy ones. My mother’s a great person and she taught me a lot about how fantastic females can be. Then there are my sisters, who are all terrific. All through grammar school and high school I met girls who had lots on the ball. Now, it’s easy for me to strike up a good relationship with a girl because I feel completely at ease with all of them.
Here are some of the things I like most about girls:
1. A good listener. There’s nothing quite as attractive about a girl than one who listens to what others have to say.
2. A neat dresser. Clothes are important. They tell a lot of things about a girl. They don’t have to be expensive, but they should always be clean and well cared for and also up to date.
3. An honest girl. It’s important for a girl to always tell the truth.
4. An understanding girl. There are so many things that go on in my life that I can’t help. Like lots of work and being away and getting moody. It takes a girl with real understanding to put up with me.
5. An interesting girl. This is important because a girl who thinks about lots of other things besides herself is more fun. This means she has lots of interests like music, and reading, and maybe the theater.
Where I like to take girls:
Dates really bore me. I mean the kind where you have to call a girl up a week in advance and plan something that you may not want to do when the time comes. I prefer waiting until the last minute and then asking a girl to share what I really want to do with me. This way makes both of you have a better time.
There’s no special place I like to take girls. It can be anywhere from a good movie to a day at the beach. It all depends on my mood.
I don’t see anything wrong with going steady with a girl if you enjoy each other. Also, I think it’s good to sort of play the field and date lots of girls at the same time. I’ve done things both ways and everything always seems to work out fine.
In closing, I’d like to say that I’ve always had great respect for girls and so far not one has ever disappointed me.
Being a father is a lot of fun. My son Christian gives me more pleasure than I had ever imagined. He’s just at the age now where everything is new to him and because of this I get to see a lot of new things, too.
There are a lot of things that I’d like Christian to have when he grows up, but the most important one I can think of right now is for him to have the freedom to be and do anything he wants in life. I know a lot of people think it’s weird to be an entertainer with long hair, but since I think it’s groovy, it doesn’t matter to me so much what other people think. I want Christian to have this same opportunity. As far as I’m concerned, he can grow up to be anything he wants as long as he lives an honest life. My wife, Phyllis, feels this way too.
As far as disciplining him goes, I’ll leave that pretty much to my wife, but I don’t think he’s going to need so much discipline if he gets lots of love from both of us as parents.
So many people keep asking me if I don’t think that kids of today are pretty out-of-it and undisciplined. When I hear this, it really disturbs me because I think kids today are more with it than any generation so far. They think a lot more about issues and want to grow up faster. I think this is a good sign, not a bad one. I hope my son is even more mature as a teenager than teens are today. I think this is all to the good.
And as far as fans are concerned, I’ve yet to meet one who wasn’t polite and well mannered. The ones who usually get close enough to talk to us always have interesting things to say and seem to be very smart. I like to talk to them, even though sometimes I might not show it.
Once in awhile a fan will get ahold of my telephone number and call me up. When I get on the phone, the fans are always very polite and try to take up as little of my time as possible. They are quite considerate and I appreciate this. They always ask me interesting questions and in a way they make me feel much more responsible now that I’m an entertainer. Every day something new happens to me that makes me very pleased and proud to be a Monkee.
It’s all true… everything you’ve heard about me and how much I like to eat. That’s for sure! It’s the grooviest thing in the world to sit down to a really well-prepared dinner. It always amazes me how many people don’t care about eating. They’ll go into a restaurant and order a dinner and even if it’s bad, they don’t seem to care. This really isn’t true with me.
You’ve probably seen some of my favorite recipes in TiGER BEAT’s Monkee Spectacular. I do like to cook myself and often I’ll have another couple over for dinner. I don’t have the time lately to prepare anything elaborate but I’ll settle for a good steak dinner with a salad and a well cooked vegetable.
I’ve had letters asking if I would consider marrying a girl who couldn’t cook. Well, I don’t think a good cook is an absolute necessity for a happy marriage, but it certainly would help a lot if the girl could cook. I can’t imagine any girl not being able to cook. I can see that some girls are better cooks than others, but it seems a wild idea that a girl couldn’t at least cook something. Wives have to cook, like it or not, just like husbands have to go out and earn money.
The best way to learn to cook is by cooking. So I suggest that if you can’t cook as yet, that you begin today. Believe me, it’s really wild fun. You’ll love it.
Hi! So many of you keep writing me asking about dating and what kinds of things we like to do that I decided to devote my whole column to this.
First of all, none of the Monkees actually dates. We can’t. We don’t have time. In fact, nobody in show business really dates the same way that people in other lines of work do. It’s just impossible. You see we never know what we’re going to be required to do. Like how long a recording session will last, or how long a working day we have.
If I could go out on lots of dates, believe me they’d be very simple ones. I’d either go over to someone else’s house or have someone come over to mine. This is the kind of date I like best… just a quiet dinner with someone fun to talk to.
The most fun I have is when three or four couples get together at someone’s house and sit down to a very groovy meal. Then after dinner, we all listen to music and have a good conversation about everything that’s going on in the world.
Believe me, many of you have more opportunities to date than any of the Monkees because you have more freedom of time and movement. Hope you appreciate this and have fun wherever you go.